It’s a lump in your throat. Literally. A heavy bump that won’t let you speak the truth to yourself or a friend because you are looking for that one reason to stay.
You’ve played most scenarios, especially the worst-case ones. You’ve pictured life without the job, without the spouse, without the device. You remember the time when you thought it was the best thing ever.
Now, you look at yourself in the mirror, place it beside you and it feels like a stranger. You are living the past, in the present.
That is how you know.
I’m not so old as to consider myself wise (frankly, by the time I get to that age, I won’t have a need for that wisdom) but I know that there are patterns in life — my life — that reoccur until I learn whatever lesson I need to learn.
Does it happen to you?
It’s like that opinion everyone in your circle airs and you pretend not to listen — until you are stuck looking silly because they told you so.
That’s how life is sometimes. I’m learning to pay more attention. Life sends messages every day and those who are wise enough never have to look up to the heavens and pretend to be desperate asking Lord Why Me.
So, how do we really know when to listen to life (or to the people we surround ourself with)?
Most people in our lives see us better than we see ourselves — at least externally. It’s up to us to pick and choose what feedback ties with our personal narratives.
1.How do you rate your life so far?
2.Do you enjoy learning new stuff? Or would you rather stick to your well-known routines?
3.Are your relationships based on mutual love, trust, and respect? Or do you feel like you are constantly competing with someone?
4.Are you having fun and taking risks? Or do you fear failure?
I always tell people to ask yourself the questions you already know the answer to. Take the concept of light and darkness about both life and the contrast between happiness and depression or sadness. But in some ways, you wouldn’t know what happiness, or light, was like without the sadness or darkness at times.
“It is a terrible thing to see and have no vision.”
- Helen Keller
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